My wife and I just celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary a few days ago. We are constantly working on our marriage relationship. It's very difficult on occasion, but so rewarding! Just when I think we're doing great, life can change in a moment. We definitely need each other. 

In the video below, learn how to make your marriage last by doing things are actually earn you "points". Trust me, men, it's not how guys think! I'm the master of failure at this a lot of days.  But this will make you laugh and cry. So get ready. Women, this will challenge you too. This is 21 minutes long so take a break and focus in. 

Also, here are 15 scriptures about marriage that will help you grow in faith and understanding of your spouse. Are you growing in a mature, healthy marriage?

In this article from The Atlantic, it's argued that following your passion is NOT always the best advice. The bottom line is: your feelings can be fickle. Your dreams might let you down. You might change your mind down the road about what you're really passionate about doing with the rest of your life.

The best plan is to let your passions develop over time, to gain the character, knowledge, skills and competency you need to see if you're really great at something and able to get the rock-star status, respect, and income necessary to reach your goals. So let it stew. Don't talk big about what you're going to do someday. See how well your interests, vision and passion can and do create lasting results today. Make tiny investments every day. But have a plan to survive and even thrive in the meantime. Perhaps, you will become even more passionate about what you're doing right now if you keep at it. Indeed, you can have multiple passions in life. 

Keep pressing on!

Who doesn't like to party? Over the past holiday, I was wishes that there was something local to do with my family after the downtown parade. Just for fun. At times, however, I believe we seek pleasure and fun because we also have problems we're trying to run from. Of course, much of what we deal with is the effect of our poor choices. We need to own up to our mistakes and failures. However, some of them can be an effect of being raised under poor parenting and hurtful childhood experiences. That holiday evening we all decided to watch a movie together called I Can Only Imagine. Bart Millard, the main character in this real-life story, struggles to get past the pain and agony of his childhood and teen years of dealing with his abusive father. As he tried really hard to find his purpose he pursued his untapped potential of being a singer/songwriter. Through the pain of his father-son relationship he penned one of the most famous songs ever written! It's a good watch, and a good lesson for people dealing with emotional baggage. I really enjoyed seeing how Bart's band Mercy Me got their start and claim to fame. I now own 10 CD's of that band! I'm looking forward to seeing them and lots of other bands at Alive Music Fest later this summer. Here's the movie trailer below, in case you're interested. Have a great summer!

Last week, we had a great event here in Findlay! It was so cool to get together with other belivers for a night of music, worship and inspiration! This idea came to me earlier this year, and with the help of talented folks in Findlay, and with the open door from YFC, we had a nice evening together. I hope to see you at our next event! 

Dave Ferguson shares five ways to bless your neighbors. He says, “From the very beginning, God’s way of reaching and restoring the world has always been through what I would call a blessing strategy…how do we in a very practical way that’s theologically grounded explain to people how they could bless people in places they are incarnating?

They came up with this…

• B- Begin with prayer. We want you to ask, ‘God how do you want me to bless the people in the places you’ve sent me to?’
• L- Listen. Don’t talk, but listen to people, their struggles, their pains, in the places God sent you.
• E- Eat. You can’t just check this off. It’s not quick. You have to have a meal with people or a cup of coffee. It builds relationships.
• S- Serve. If you listen with people and you eat with people they will tell you how to love them and you’ll know how to serve them.
• S- Story. When the time is right, now we talk and we share the story of how Jesus changed our life.

Genesis 12:2-3 says, “I will make you into a great nation, and I will bless you; I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse; and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you.”

So instead of asking how can you be productive, ask how can you be proactive in your sphere of living to give away yourself? Love your neighbor as yourself. 

One of my favorite authors and speakers on the topic of ministry leadership is Daniel Im (not to be confused with Francis Chan). He said that when he was discerning his call to ministry, his pastor told him "to be rooted, to serve faithfully, and to seek out opportunities to expand my skills and to lead." As a teenager, he boldly asked if he could lead the worship ministry at his church when the position opened up. I appreciate how his story began to unfold at a young age. We should allow teenagers around us to step up in leadership opportunities when they take initiative. We should reward such requests and give room for growth in a safe environment. What bold steps have you taken lately in your faith journey? 
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I recently finished a book that was recommended to me titled From Spiritual Slavery to Spiritual Sonship. It was a fantastic read about the journey that author/evangelist Jack Frost experienced growing in faith and in the embrace of Father God, as he put it. In the final four chapters (chapter 7 having the title above), he presents eight defining truths from his own journey that helped him begin displacing an orphan heart and start feeling secure and at rest as a favored son. 

1. Forgive Your Parents for Misrepresenting Father's Love to You.
2. Ask Your Parents to Forgive You for the Way You Hurt or Disappointed Them.
3. Focus Your Life Upon Being a Son or Daughter
4. Forgive Spiritual Leaders and Governmental Authorities
5. You May Need to Seek Forgiveness From Those in Authority
6. Daily Renounce Ungodly Beliefs and Hidden Lies of Orphan Thinking
7. Begin Sowing Into Your Inheritance
8. Entering Into Your Inheritance

He says, "The depth of humility we embrace determines the depth of kingdom life we will experience." I cannot think of another book that goes into the same level of spiritual truths with such heart-gripping stories that this author shares. I really enjoyed reading about his career as a deep sea fisherman (twice), his restored parental relationships, and his humbling path through pastoral ministry and launching a ministry of his own. I can see how my story relates with his story in several ways. I am thankful to the person who recommended this book to me. 

If you are a believer, a child of God, renewed in the image of God, then remember that you have tremendous eternal worth to your heavenly Father. Even though he is listening and responding to millions of prayers all at the same time, he is willing to stop everything to bless you. Don't try to earn his favor, by striving for perfection on your own. He will give you a pure heart, by faith. Like Jesus, you are God's beloved child (son/daughter) with whom he is well-pleased (Matthew 3:17). So, move forward in the spiritual riches that he has bestowed upon you. If you feel alone or lost, then find the path home that is paved in part with restitution and forgiveness that you need with your parents and spiritual leaders; and you will inherently be at peace and rest! ​

For more resources about healing an orphan heart from Jack (now deceased) and Trisha Frost, visit their ministry at www.shilohplace.org. 

Will Smith, actor, shares his thoughts on how you get past the barriers in your life. To sum it up, you tough it out and never give up. Learn as you go, failure ensures success. Be mentally tougher than than the adversity you are facing. 

If you are in leadership, Jesus Christ modeled the way that you can lead. To the world all around him he was a failure. But he set the new standard of what servant leadership means. He's worth following.

​Read more at www.edstetzer.com/2018/03/7-principles-to-lead-as-jesus-led/

A true legend passed away one week ago. Perhaps, there has been no greater modern-day evangelist. Dr. Billy Graham was "America's Pastor" for decades. He leaves a huge legacy of touching millions of lives. 

Think about your own life. Who have you influenced for good during your lifetime? Who is now a better person because of your impact? A friend, child, or mentee, perhaps. Reach out and help someone. Give hugs. You have a gift, so share it with others, and it will keep on giving back to you! 

There are a lot of really great charitable non-profit organizations in Findlay. I have been happy to work with several of them the past few years. So far, my favorites are as follows, in no particular order:

The Children's Mentoring Connection
The Ministerial Association
The Christian Clearing House
The City Mission
The Women's Resource Center
The Hope House
The Red Cross
The Community Foundation
The United Way
National Association of Mental Illness (NAMI)

Do you have a favorite? Why? 

Pictured below is the 2018 Board of Directors at the Christian Clearing House.