Today (Saturday), as I am running sound and music for the Upward Sports League in Findlay, I wanted to put down some words between my DJ duties. I was exchanging some thoughts several months ago via FB Messenger with a board member from NAMI of Hancock County, and have further thoughts I might share.
I know that a lot of people struggle daily with mental, emotional, physical & spiritual (MEPS) distress. Some of those in greater degree than others. People react to the pain or stress with nicotine, drugs, sex, entertainment, gambling, porn, alcohol, unnecessary hours at work, even music. And sometimes other people see those behaviors as very bad things. The struggle is a very real experience.
But the external behaviors are not the problem. The internal mental struggle is the first problem. That's why mental is listed first in the line. The other three follow the first in this list Mental-emotional-physical-spiritual. (But it's difficult to put any one higher than the others. I see all four MEPS as a package. Each one effects the other three.)
The addictive behaviors are often just reactions to the pain and, I would submit, can easily turn into an illness. I further propose that MEPS distresses can cause temporary illness, especially temporary mental illness just like a temporary physical illness. Much like I can get a common cold from being exhausted physically, ran down, lowered immune system, etc, that is just temporary, maybe 10 days long. A more serious mental illness may last longer, some even permanent. But as some symptoms of MEPS distresses are improved, the others can as well. So no matter what problem's or MEPS distresses one is suffering through it's important to remain being strengthened mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
What are your thoughts?
It seems like every other week, there is a local fundraiser event in my area. With so many great non-profits and charitable organizations, there is no shortage of ways to give financially or time to good causes that make a huge difference. So if you are looking for ways to help your mission move forward, I recommend you get creative and cast a grand vision for reaching out and bring others along for the ride. Below are some really cool ideas I found online recently.
Here are my initial top 9 favorites:
The point is you will need to continue to build your brand and share your story with your audience. That's why I like to offer StoryBrand Consulting whenever I can. There are plently more ideas and links where the above list came from. Just go to:
Have a great day!
I love getting together with people, whether to celebrate new life, life passed away, weddings, birthday, anniversary celebration, etc. Recently, I lost a friend. She was a little old lady at the church. Claire was as sweet and faithful servant-minded woman. I'm soon going to her funeral visitation and going to speak with the family to reflect, pray & bless them hopefully. Claire reminded me quite a bit of my own grandmother who passed away almost exactly one year earlier. So, I'm very sad to lose her from this life, but happy she is now at peace and perfect bliss.
Here is a couple great links to reflect on:
How do I find comfort and peace when I have lost a loved one to death?
What Should Be the Focus of a Christian Funeral?
School dances should be a place to have fun, socialize with friends, and celebrate a special occasion of the school year. It is the viewpoint of this DJ (me) that school dances should be kept at a PG-13 age appropriate level, and not an adult night club. Specific boundaries are recommended for how students are permitted to dance with each other. Adult chaperones are requested to monitor all dance areas.
Teens have new hormones and emotions bursting and social skills and cognitive abilities are still developing. Thousands of choices are made every day beginning in the teen years. Most destructive habits start young. Many adults, I would argue, still do the things that they started doing as a teen when parents and adults weren't looking, such as smoking, drinking, drugs, sex, etc. It can be argued that extremely sexual dancing can easily lead to accidentally sexual STDs, unwanted pregnancies, and further destructive choices and addictions. So it makes sense that school-sponsored, tax-payer funded dances do not allow teens to openly glorify sexually provocative behaviors right in plain view of school faculty and all their peers just because "kids will be kids." Measures should be taken to change the grinding and twerking sensation at many high school dances and encourage teens to show one another a level of respect and decency that will hopefully pay-off in the future.
So what specific dance moves should be tolerated at high school dances? I would suggest, students stay upright. Move and step how they like, but don't thrust and bounce private parts together like two dogs in heat. Ladies may want to circle up with their guy partners behind them, with hands on hips. That's as far as it should go especially as friends, faculty, perhaps even some parents may be looking on. A majority of teens are not ready for the raunchy dancing anyway, and would much rather just dance around and have clean fun with their friends in a safe environment that celebrates their youthfulness and innocence.
Simply prohibiting dirty dancing is not a quick fix of the bigger issues teens are facing. Right living cannot be legislated and be all about rules. Teens are young people who need loving, caring and patient adults who will pace with them through their difficult choices and rapid growth into adulthood.
I wanted to share some news about a new development in my career. This news has been announced that past two weeks at my local church and in Pastor Mike's blog statement. The past 6 years I have been a full-time associate pastor at my local church. Before taking on this role, I had worked in several different fields such as youth ministry, sales, biz development, substitute school teaching, pool and lawn maintenance, and even one failed attempt at starting a business in 2008. Now, I am phasing into a transformed role within the position I now hold. I will be expanding my ministry work into the community as an advocate for good and necessary change. I will also be taking more time to be an entrepreneur working for my own business(es). Thus, we will also be looking to hire three small (but vitally important) spare-time positions in key areas of our local church. I myself will equip and empower each of these three persons in the areas of Connections, Discipleship, and Volunteers. I will remain working in these areas as much as needed, and also in church communications, social media marketing, custodial oversight, and expanding local mission efforts. By May 1, my church office hours will slim down to Tuesdays, Wed afternoons, Fridays, and of course Sunday morning services. My wife Tracy will remain in her role as the children's pastor (see her blog), our kids will remain in their schools and we will remain living in the same house. Everything is going very well. I just believe it's best to branch out into new territories. If you wish to learn more about my outside work efforts, please contact me. Thank you for your continued support and encouragement.
Last month, my family and I traveled to Lexington, KY to visit a family member. I never knew "Lex" was the world capital of horses! There are blue horses everywhere on signs and statues. I first noticed it at our hotel, the Holiday Inn Express.
Anyway, I wanted to make a note about the remarkable hospitality by the staff, that earned my business as a new member. They had a great looking facility and pool house. The beds were the most comfortable I've ever been on. The housekeeping crew were well groomed and polite. There were toiletry items at the front desk, if needed. The dining room and breakfast were fully stocked and hot. The lady even asked me as I sat on the couch if I had any breakfast yet before she started cleaning up (I had not). They opened the pool house early upon request. I could go on. At check out, the manager personally asked me about my stay and, finally, as I was stepping away, if I would like to look at the membership benefits. By that point, I was so impressed I couldn't say no. They were adding value to my stay at every turn. So, for the first time ever, I became a hotel chain member.
What are you and your organization doing to add tremendous value to your internal and external customers??
My wife and I just celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary a few days ago. We are constantly working on our marriage relationship. It's very difficult on occasion, but so rewarding! Just when I think we're doing great, life can change in a moment. We definitely need each other.
In the video below, learn how to make your marriage last by doing things are actually earn you "points". Trust me, men, it's not how guys think! I'm the master of failure at this a lot of days. But this will make you laugh and cry. So get ready. Women, this will challenge you too. This is 21 minutes long so take a break and focus in.
Also, here are 15 scriptures about marriage that will help you grow in faith and understanding of your spouse. Are you growing in a mature, healthy marriage?
In this article from The Atlantic, it's argued that following your passion is NOT always the best advice. The bottom line is: your feelings can be fickle. Your dreams might let you down. You might change your mind down the road about what you're really passionate about doing with the rest of your life.
The best plan is to let your passions develop over time, to gain the character, knowledge, skills and competency you need to see if you're really great at something and able to get the rock-star status, respect, and income necessary to reach your goals. So let it stew. Don't talk big about what you're going to do someday. See how well your interests, vision and passion can and do create lasting results today. Make tiny investments every day. But have a plan to survive and even thrive in the meantime. Perhaps, you will become even more passionate about what you're doing right now if you keep at it. Indeed, you can have multiple passions in life.
Keep pressing on!
Who doesn't like to party? Over the past holiday, I was wishes that there was something local to do with my family after the downtown parade. Just for fun. At times, however, I believe we seek pleasure and fun because we also have problems we're trying to run from. Of course, much of what we deal with is the effect of our poor choices. We need to own up to our mistakes and failures. However, some of them can be an effect of being raised under poor parenting and hurtful childhood experiences. That holiday evening we all decided to watch a movie together called I Can Only Imagine. Bart Millard, the main character in this real-life story, struggles to get past the pain and agony of his childhood and teen years of dealing with his abusive father. As he tried really hard to find his purpose he pursued his untapped potential of being a singer/songwriter. Through the pain of his father-son relationship he penned one of the most famous songs ever written! It's a good watch, and a good lesson for people dealing with emotional baggage. I really enjoyed seeing how Bart's band Mercy Me got their start and claim to fame. I now own 10 CD's of that band! I'm looking forward to seeing them and lots of other bands at Alive Music Fest later this summer. Here's the movie trailer below, in case you're interested. Have a great summer!